As many say, you didn’t give up and suffer alone. Why are families falling apart so much today? The answer is simple - there is no mutual understanding, there is no mutual desire. Just become boring or worldly fuss (being) Took away all the beauty and romance. Well, where to go from this being, what to do in order to actually become a happy person. Most of all, you need to look deep into yourself. Change something inside yourself and then everything will go uphill and everything will work out. And romance and passion and a great desire ... Everything will return, only you need the right priorities, they need to be valued and respected with feelings, you can’t play. And then you will not sit alone like a fool.
Let's talk about one question - why does the wife refuse her husband sex?
How often do you hear from men "The wife does not give, I don’t understand the reason, I don’t know what to do" ... Is it possible to reason with her?
I want to start with one parable. From the life of animals. From the sex life of gorillas.
Behind them - one male and five females, biologists have been watching for several years. And they noticed: some representatives of the weaker monkey sex often and persistently offer sex to the male, depicting an extreme degree of readiness. At the same time, the one who is already pregnant is the most active - she clings to her "husband", the father of her unborn child. Why, one wonders, if the goal has already been achieved and the continuation of the family is ensured? And then, it turns out that the male is not distracted by other females. According to scientists, such behavior became a harbinger of monogamy in humans.
Salt of the parable: even monkeys understand that the male needs sex, that he strengthens the family. But some people don't understand this.
"I'm tired - my head hurts - I want to sleep"
Sexless - psychologists use this term to denote a disgusting phenomenon that has struck both Western and Russian society. Namely, the lack of regular sexual intercourse between spouses. It happens, of course, that husbands also deprive their wives of intimate attention. But women are more often denied intimacy. And men, tormented by their libido, hear: "I'm tired - my head hurts - I want to sleep." Or quite offensive: “Where did you go?”
Psychologists have found the answer. But you won't believe how simple and straightforward it is.
The author of one song sings these words: "You refused me three times, that's how you are ..."
An amazing experiment was conducted by a sex therapist from Australia, Bettina Arndt. She asked 98 men and women (spouses) to keep anonymous diaries of their intimate lives for a year. And tell them the truth. After getting what she wanted, the researcher wrote a whole book
"Why Women Quit Sex and Other Bedroom Battles."
Bettina did not make a shocking discovery, discovering that there are many reasons. And they are usually different for everyone. But I did come across a few common ones.
First: most wives for some reason believe that sex should be only when, there and the way they want. But at the same time, they do not convey their thoughts to their husbands. And they just refuse. Like, he should understand. And he, the goat, does not understand. And climb. And offended even then.
In other words, wives make husbands guilty of untimely harassment. And they themselves are offended by them - such is the female logic. And this resentment, in turn, becomes a reason for refusal ...
Second: the wife holds some kind of spite against her husband, even a very small one: for example, she didn’t take out the garbage, didn’t ask how she was doing at work, her mother-in-law said nasty things. And, pouting, "punishes" the deprivation of intimacy. But again, does not state the reason for the sex strike. They are silent as hell.
But, even saying those very notorious “I'm tired - my head hurts - I want to sleep,” many women omit the details. Or maybe they really had a hard day at work. And they are so preoccupied with her that there is not even a place in their head for thoughts about sex.
But dear readers, what is the conclusion: the bedroom is not a battlefield for psychics, and husbands are not quick-witted telepaths. They need to be explained in detail. And do not bring the matter to deep resentment.
No need for romance, it's better to go straight to bed.
“I love my wife,” someone says, essentially confirming the conclusion of the Australian researcher. - I want a wife all the time, although we have been together for 20 years. And she didn't tell me. And all the talk on this topic does not give anything. She doesn’t go to the doctor: “I’m not sick!” Physically healthy - porn turns on her, but knowing this, she doesn't allow her to turn it on. And nothing helps: we go on holidays, go to restaurants, and go to dances - romance is more than enough ... "
Bettina explains that passion, and even elementary lust, which pushes the newlyweds into each other's arms, cannot last forever. And even more so, it manifests itself equally in both spouses. Yes, even after many years. The production of the sex hormones responsible for it - passion - fades away in about 18 months.
The researcher has found the most primitive production enhancer - sex. But how can one “treat” with sex, if it is just not there?! Very simple, says Bettina. I can't through. Through "tired - my head hurts - I want to sleep."
A woman must realize the perniciousness of sexless, understand how painful it is for a loving husband, destructive for a family. And do not refuse, always agree when the husband asks. Unless, of course, she had an attack of appendicitis.
Every man at least once in his life feels like Tom Cruise. She left, but promised to return ... While she is gone, you need to do everything that you cannot do in the presence of your wife! Mission Possible!
1. When your wife doesn't have Instagram
2. Flushing the radiator. Oh, I wish I didn't know!
3. The same situation. I would get it in the neck!
4. There are still 3. We must hurry until the wife returns from work ...
5. Even when you don’t see your spouse, you can only stare at such “beauties”
6. It may seem that this photo is about fish and beer, but no! It's all about socks that have been on the battery for several days!
7. Men love extreme sports, so even ordinary cooking is not complete without adrenaline.
8. And sometimes I would still like to be under the close supervision of my beloved
9. They always find something from their wife’s wardrobe that they definitely need to try on, and then take a funny photo
Many people know me, but no one knows what kind of wife's dress I wear while she is not at home.
Boy quotes (@loveborshch) April 3, 2017
10. What do you do when your spouse turns away?
11. “When there is no wife .... I go to the gym”
Less than a year ago, she left her husband, with whom she lived together for almost 10 years, but she could not build happiness with him, there are no children. Around the same time, she met a man whom she fell in love with. Moreover, he fell in love at first sight, began to court, call, surrounded me from all sides with his attention and tenderness. But he has been married for 20 years, two schoolchildren, not walking, he just “beguiled the demon” with me. With a fool, or maybe from fatigue after a failed family life, I agreed to a relationship with him. We have been meeting for almost a year, we are very good together, every month his affection grows stronger, calls during the day more and more often, constantly raising the topic of my future motherhood and children. Although he is not going to leave the family, there is a strong rear, everything is “packed”. We didn’t discuss it, but I won’t fight him off, and if he hasn’t decided in a year, then he won’t decide. How can a man at 40 suddenly fall in love with another and calmly continue to live with his wife? Does his wife see nothing, it's time to save the family! And what should I do, please advise.
Svetlana, Rostov-on-Don, 32 years old / 05/16/14
Opinions of our experts
Alyona
Svetlana, let's not be from a sore head to a healthy one? What "wife does not see"? If the husband is good at lying and covering his tracks, then the wife, accustomed to trusting him, can remain in happy ignorance of his adventures for a long time. Do you think this is a minus for your wife and that she does not fuss and save the family? No, Sveta, this is a minus for your boyfriend, who knows how to lie perfectly well. Indeed, you need to be a complete cynic to have an affair with a divorced childless woman, blow into her ears about “children”, and then return home, kiss your wife (and not only kiss, you yourself understand that their beds are not in different rooms), smile at the children... Can you imagine what a skillful double life your lover lives? And, most importantly, if he is now so cleverly deceiving his wife, then why did you decide that he was telling you only the truth? About the fact that he is "not walking" and that only a woman like you could lead him astray? He may have had women before you. Why do most mistresses suddenly believe so sacredly that men who cheat on their wives tell them only the truth and nothing but the truth? Where is the logic? Your lover is not just a cynic, he is also a scoundrel. He is perfectly "packed" - there is a family, there is a wife, there are children, now there is also a mistress. What do you have besides someone else's husband? And what is your fate if you become pregnant from him? From the family, he is clearly in no hurry. And just believe me, every tenth letter here about this, when you are very pregnant, his interest in you will greatly decrease. It is now that you are interesting to him - while you are free, without obligations and tails. And you will be in the seventh or eighth month, what will he do with you? Most likely, it will end first with promises of financial assistance, and then he will completely disappear from your life. And you will have a new subject for the letter: whether to file for alimony, tell his wife and generally seek justice, since he is such and such. Even if he is ready to live in two families, quietly, you just imagine what it is like when your child has all the holidays without a dad, because dad will be with his official family. Even on New Year's. And what will you say to the child? And most importantly, how long? In general, Sveta, do not romanticize your relationship with a lover who simply “has” you and keeps you hooked with the words that you want to hear. After all, he perfectly understands that at the age of 32 it’s time for you to want “children”, so he starts these conversations. But it’s not at all a fact that he says this because he wants to help you become a mother. It may very well be that he is simply probing the soil and hoping that you will say that children are not of interest to you and are not yet in your plans (after all, you have been married for 10 years without children). Maybe this is just the perfect option for him? A childless lover is so beautiful. Until she gets old. And there you can hit the young "meat". Who said that "the devil in the rib" hits only once? So, do you want advice? I give: leave the lover to his family, which you seem not eager to break. This relationship has already eaten up a year of your life. If you let yourself fool further, you will wake up at the age of forty and without a family and without children. Or wake up earlier - in the role of a single mother and with greatly reduced prospects for establishing a personal life.
Sergei
Svetlana, I personally think that your friend is behaving meanly. And to say that he loves you madly is not true. No, it's clear that you want it to be so. But desires and reality quite often do not coincide. Your lover is just using you for personal pleasure, nothing more. If only because a man who really loves a woman will be with her, no matter what gets in the way. And children are not a hindrance. Your uncle frankly says that he is not going to get divorced because everything is already “packed” with him. That is, they openly declare to you that you cannot count on anything more than the role of a mistress. Already this is actually an insult, because it shows clear disrespect. However, as I understand it, you are not one of the squeamish and quite admit such an attitude towards yourself. Well, everyone is different. But the fact is that those who are not respected will not be loved either. It just won't work. But to fuck on the sly from his wife - that's please. Well, so that you don’t get too indignant, they periodically throw sweeteners at you in the form of conversations about children. And you believe. Well, apparently, indeed, hunting is worse than bondage. However, I strongly advise you to think about two points. First, try to put yourself in the place of a woman with two children and answer honestly, would you like your husband to suddenly have a mistress? What would you think of her? And if you are not going to beat off the peasant, then why are you doing such meanness to a woman who is not guilty of anything before you? Couldn't refuse a married man who began to get along? Lies. You didn't want to. And now you are looking for options on how to take him away from the family. Well, how do you look in all this? And can you build happiness on such a grief of another woman and her children? Personally, I think it's very unlikely. Yes, you yourself understand this. And if so, then, secondly, to continue these relationships is just to wag the nerves of yourself and others, and even lose precious time. Well, why do you need it? You are already 32 years old. This is not old age, of course, but not seventeen years, when it is quite possible to spend a dozen years on entertainment. Your clock is ticking, and the longer you spend your own time on a futile relationship, the bitterer it will become at the end. Although, of course, everyone is free to spoil his life in his own way.
If a wife no longer loves her husband, there are usually many signs of a problem. From indifference to irritability, from reducing the fire in bed to the loss of common interests - any man can notice the growing problems. How does a woman behave in a relationship in the absence of love, and is it possible to fight it?
The first signs of a wife's indifference
Women by nature find it difficult to hide the absence of feelings. The first problems in the family go side by side with changes in the lady's appearance. A woman stops caring for herself, rarely does depilation, does not buy new clothes. She no longer wants to interest her soulmate, which first affects the external state. However, gradually the problem affects her inner world. So, against the background of a lack of love, the following states of a girl arise:
Tolerate the shortcomings of a person is possible only if there is love. However, when feelings pass, even the virtues of a spouse can evoke anger and aggression. That is why the wife, whose feelings have faded, turns into an aggressive fury. Literally everything can bring her out of herself, including the positive actions of a man.
This state also has an opposite form: isolation, mixed with silence. The woman refuses to make contact, does not listen to the man's conversations, does not try to establish a dialogue. Sometimes it seems that a lady simply tolerates a man, not seeing any of his virtues.
From love to hate or how to determine that the wife's feelings have long faded
Psychologists believe that signs that a wife does not love a man appear as soon as the feeling fades. However, some representatives of the stronger sex manage not to notice this. What signs speak eloquently of the complete extinction of the once burning love?
- a woman refuses to perform marital duties without explanation;
- she spends more time with friends outside the home than next to her husband;
- a woman makes important decisions without consulting her lover;
- periodic and frequent betrayals can also indicate the fading of feelings.
At this stage, it is already difficult to save the relationship, because the girl has long come to terms with the fact that she does not have love for her husband, and therefore she has begun to change her daily life. Such a woman makes all decisions alone, neglects her husband in every possible way, spends time with anyone but him. At the same time, in words, she can be the most faithful and loving wife.
The risk of betrayal at this stage increases markedly, because a woman is indifferent to her husband, and only marriage ties keep her in this relationship. The performance of elementary household duties is reduced to a minimum, and the number of quarrels is growing exponentially.
Leave or stay: behavior options for a man
Psychologists are sure that if a wife does not love her husband, and there are more and more signs of an impending divorce, it is not worth fighting for a relationship. Cheating, indifference, a wild lifestyle - all this kills relationships and does not allow people to be happy with each other. And if all happiness disappears from the family, marriage turns into a heavy duty with a lot of problems for both partners.
However, there are times when a woman's love can still be returned, and here are some of them:
- if the wife only periodically behaves aggressively or indifferently, this can be attributed to the peculiarities of her character or to the early stage of the “illness” of love;
- if the behavior of a woman is associated with a negative act of a man, then marriage must be fought for, because love can still be alive;
- if the behavior of the wife is only a reaction to the same behavior of the husband, then the relationship can also be saved, but the chances of success are minimal.
Of course, if the husband's feelings are strong, then marriage must be fought to the last. When relationships cause more suffering than joy, it is better to let them go. Perhaps a man and a woman are simply not made for each other, and therefore their love eventually passed.
How can a relationship be saved if the wife does not love her husband? Sometimes signs of problems with feelings disappear with intense care, the presence of romance in the life of a couple. In other words, by surrounding his beloved with maximum caress and attention, a man can resurrect her love. You can also try to diversify family life, visit theaters and museums together, travel.
You should not ignore trips to a family psychologist, because qualified help sometimes saves even the most hopeless marriages. You will have to act quickly, because as soon as a woman is convinced that she does not love a man, she will leave, and nothing will stop her.
Anna, Moscow
In the period after 6 months to a year and a half of living together, everyone in a relationship may begin to cool off towards your partner.
You don't spend as much time in bed as you used to.
The question of who is to blame if the wife does not want a husband is obvious. Both are to blame. And it is better to deal with the problem instead of looking for someone to blame.
The reasons for this cooling of the wife
8 reasons why a wife does not want a husband:
- The husband gives her the same emotions, the wife consistently has the same emotional background. Sometimes she really needs these emotional slides.
- The husband lost his attraction to her, hence the wife also loses it. Because attraction is transmitted and initially comes from the husband.
- You are used to each other's pheromones. The family no longer has that former attraction and chemistry as before.
- Monotony in bed due to lack of experience.
- You have a small child in your family.
- Her depression or stress outside the home.
- The wife refuses out of a sense of revenge, some past resentment against you (for example, resentment in the style of “I turned on the light bulb myself, but I asked him about it 4 days in a row”).
- The husband simply stopped looking after himself and walks around the apartment with a fat belly in his shorts (do not forget to shave in the morning, take a shower and keep fit). The smell of sweat is very repulsive.
16 secrets that solve the problem
1. Calculate which of the 2 components of your relationship is sagging
For any relationship there are 2 components:
- Emotional (there must be emotional peaks, the scale of emotions she has at this moment is like a “slide”);
- Physiological.
If you consistently have these 2 components on top, then no one will leave you, you will always desire each other and close your worries about how to make your wife want her husband.
2. Rate her at least a 7 out of 10 on a scale of emotional outbursts
Emotional outbursts are the sudden rupture of her reality into the positive.
Many people do not know what to do if the wife does not want a husband, and they have no reasons for this. Here you just need to give her more of these emotional outbursts.
Consider examples of how you can arrange a rooftop.
Do it with her in any extreme place:
- near the church;
- on the beach in a cabana;
- in the toilet of a public institution;
- right in the fitting room of a clothing boutique;
- at home on the kitchen table;
- washing machine at home.
Try something out of the ordinary at least once a week.
Even if in a public place there will not be such high-quality intimacy as at home, all this is compensated by the fact that you will release large doses of adrenaline when you do it.
The benefits of all this
- She will feel your passion, a rush of love and at the same time danger.
- This will give her a very big surge of emotions. The emotional side is very important for women.
- Thus, the relationship will last longer, questions about why the wife does not want her husband and constantly sleeps will close, and you will know what to do.
If you don't give her those emotional outbursts and take care of it, then someone else will.
Because especially young girls always live with emotions. We men think more logically. Women are different.
Always make sure that there are emotional outbursts in the family.
There should be peaks of emotions - positive bursts.
3. Don't let her manipulate the man and use it as a weapon
As soon as a man stops communicating with other girls, and your lady no longer sees competitors for her man, the trading mechanism works for her.
She begins to think about in which cases to give her husband the right to intimacy, and in which not.
Here is such a common reason why a wife does not want a man can be identified.
In what cases does a woman begin to manipulate a man?
- The girl sees that her man invests only in her and no other girl.
- If a man has no female girlfriends.
- He does not communicate with other women and does not share emotions with them.
- A man does not improve and does not develop.
How to find a way out of this situation
- This is a normal male need for communication with the opposite sex without the context of the bed.
So do not deny yourself this and do not limit yourself in communicating with women. - And then your wife will see in you a worthy man, an object of desire.
- She will see you as a man who needs to be kept and who many women dream of meeting.
- She will see potential competitors next to you and will not give up her position herself and will begin to compete with them for your attention.
4. If you have a child in your family
Let us examine the question of why a wife does not want a husband after childbirth.
There are following explanations for this.:
- When a wife breastfeeds her baby 3 times a day, she experiences feelings that are equivalent to making love.
The husband becomes unnecessary to her after that. So if you have a baby in your family, there is nothing surprising in the fact that she is satisfied without you. - After childbirth, the hormonal background of girls changes dramatically and it takes several months for everything to return to normal by itself. Because of this, the passion for her husband disappears for a while. For some women who have given birth, doctors prescribe drugs for a while to put the hormonal balance in order, and someone can do without it.
- Even pregnancy affects the figure of the wife. Now she is not as thin as before. And many girls after childbirth begin to limit themselves in closeness with their man.
- They build into themselves such beliefs that I am no longer the same, that I am unworthy, he will not even look at me the way I am now, and other cockroaches.
How to resolve the issue in this case
A pregnant wife does not want a husband because the physiology of her body has changed so much. But even after the appearance of the baby, a number of other issues described above may appear.
Pay attention to these nuances and you will understand what's going on.
- The task of the man in this case is to give his wife the confidence that he loves her for who she is and for him she is still his queen.
- Let her know that the feelings have not faded yet.
5. Take on some household chores, give her the day off.
A woman has a job, business projects can take a lot of energy and strength.
And then she returns home tired, where hungry children are waiting for her. Then she still cooks in the kitchen and plus you need to wash the floors or do laundry.
And there is nothing surprising in the fact that the wife does not want a husband and constantly complains of fatigue.
There is already no talk of intimacy with a loved one.
Here the man needs to do the following:
- Or give her a day off, and let her just relax at home after work. When you take over all her affairs for a few days, her energy reserves will quickly replenish.
- Or at least half of what she did before at home, take over. Prepare food for children and family yourself, no need to wait for the arrival of the spouse.
- As an example, it would be helpful to give her a relaxing massage after work.
6. Before marriage, the husband must have a sufficient amount of experience in bed
- average man Before marriage, he has about 6 partners. This is very little to achieve mastery in bed or become an elite.
- You should just blow her mind. For no one needs cautious, insecure men who are afraid of women in bed and do not know what to do with her there.
- At the initial stage, each who marries must have a sufficient number of women (10 or more).
- Need to get enough experience with women. You must get the maximum experience!
It is only after this that you will be able to make an informed choice in the further stages of your development. - Possessing more women let you feel better about the woman you meet, find out how similar you are to her and how much she suits you.
- As a result, having met a suitable woman, you can better calibrate and at the right time refuse her if she does not suit you.
7. Your male ego may prevent you from admitting that your spouse is not satisfied.
- The husband may mistakenly believe that "I know everything"
- Many husbands consider themselves cool in bed, although in fact they don’t care if their partner has experienced pleasure or not.
- Most men cannot stay in bed for long and it ends very quickly. At the same time, they still consider themselves masters in bed and good husbands at the same time.
- In this case, you need to at least admit to yourself that you are not perfect, and you do not know everything.
- You need to be able to recognize your shortcomings, and then there is already a great incentive and motivation to work on them and change.
- Look at reality with a sober eye, and not through the prism of an inflated ego and SV (self-importance), where you consider yourself a tough guy.
- Men cannot realize, it prevents them from admitting at least to themselves that there are areas in which they should learn.
Let go of your ego and self-importance. Thus, you will know what to do if the wife does not want a husband, and you will not need the advice of a psychologist at all.
8. Men don't know how a woman's body works.
- Women are excited very slowly. Right on the millimeter as on the loudspeaker.
- Your foreplay may be longer if you used to do everything quickly.
Or if everything was too slow before, then, on the contrary, change the script. Thus, the wife will experience maximum pleasure. - There is no need to be afraid of appearing rude or tough in bed.
- Do not be afraid to dominate - women really like it.
- Women love very much and want a man to dominate them. Their whole essence is to be conquered, achieved. They just love the feeling.
- Live without shame and guilt for your desires and behavior. And do not bother with questions about how.
- You will be deeply unhappy if you suppress the male essence in yourself.
The better you know how your woman's body works, the deeper you will know her and the more pleasure you can deliver to her.
9. You shouldn't have bad breath.
For women, kisses mean a lot more than for men.
Especially if you know how to kiss.
And your breath should be fresh. 
There are never too many kisses.
For a woman, a kiss is like securing your emotional connection with her.
If your mouth smells, then everything is understandable. This prevents her from relaxing and having fun.
Do not be lazy to brush your teeth before going to bed with your beloved. And then you will no longer ask questions about why the wife does not want intimacy with her husband.
10. Let yourself and your partner be yourself in bed.
Let her be who she is.
Teach her not to be shy about making sounds in bed. Feel free to do it yourself, don't be afraid to scream.
Chat with her during intimacy.
The dream of any person is to be with a partner who can be trusted and with whom you can satisfy your curiosity and any desires.
How to allow yourself and her to be yourself:
- Let her know that you will never judge her for any desires or aspirations and you will not label her. And then she, too, will open up to you and offer to realize her extreme fantasies.
- Don't keep any sounds inside you, and your sensations will immediately increase.
- Not souls in yourself energy, let out sounds from yourself. She will compliment you separately for this.
- A woman will appreciate this ability to open up in you. It will disturb her.
for instance:
- I make women scream.
- I make them make sounds.
- I allow myself and them to be me.
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11. Make it a happy event by voicing your fantasies with her throughout the day for anticipation.
Make your upcoming night of love a happy event.
You can prepare her for this during the day. You can bring her into this state with words.
There are couples who constantly talk about nights in bed with each other.
They emphasize and voice their desires and are not shy about it.
Such moments throughout the day turn a woman on very strongly.
If you get into the habit of voicing your fantasies, it will seriously diversify your life and will not let gray everyday life suck you in. This will greatly strengthen your relationship.
We usually don't verbalize thoughts in our heads. How to tell a girl that you like her, me.
Learn to pronounce thoughts in your head - this will increase the emotional component of things.
Learn to talk to her positively about making love during the day, with playfulness and passion! This seriously increases the attraction between you.
12. Silence is not golden, talk and communicate with her
- Break the silence at least 2 times an hour during the pleasures in bed to get feedback from her.
- Say a couple of compliments, flirt. More on flirting with a girl also. No need to play silent movies.
- Whatever you say becomes passionate when you whisper words into your woman's ear.
- Lower your voice, speak in your ear. Even if you whisper the schedule of buses to Syzran to her, she will still get excited.
For example, compliments: how much you like the smell of her skin (if you really like it). Speak only the truth.
Remember and implement it. You have no reason to search the forums for a topic about why the wife does not want a husband.
13. Learn to distinguish her sounds of pain from the sounds of pleasure
Perhaps during lovemaking you hurt her, and you yourself do not even know about it.
If a wife does not want her husband because he hurts her, then naturally she may begin to avoid contact with him.
How to fix the situation:
- She makes strange sounds - you will never know their meaning, if you don't ask myself.
- Listen to her moan.
- If you scream a lot, and she also began to yell loudly - this does not mean that from pleasure.
- This sound of pain is knocked out of a common cartridge. Sometimes it is impossible to distinguish.
- Therefore, in such cases, be sure to stop and ask, does it hurt her.
- A woman can even be silent and not specifically talk about it, so as not to offend you or offend your male ego.
14. Your behavior after is very important.
There are men who, at the end of a stormy night, like to quickly pass out, turning on their other side and snoring.
When a wife does not want a husband for the reason above, you should implement the following:
- After your nightly caresses, do not go to bed immediately! Even if you really want to.
- Show by your actions and behavior that you appreciate her.
- Stroke her, kiss her, caress her. With less intensity for at least 10 minutes.
- Compliment her. You can tell her how good you were together.
- How you behave afterwards is very important. This is what cements the impression of you!
15. Take a vacation together to a new early unseen place
It is not necessary to imagine Fiji or the Canary Islands right away.
You can go away together just to relax. Where you can swim, sunbathe, where it's sunny.
No need to take friends, her girlfriends and someone else with you.
It's better to have a new place. The cottage option is not suitable.
You don't even have to do anything special there. In sunny and warm places, rapprochement, attraction, attraction to each other occurs faster.
If the two of you were fine before, and then jambs surfaced, a routine piled up, then solving all this there will not be a problem if you are two absolutely normal people.
16. Make her look at you through different angles of perception
She should not perceive you only as a husband, a keeper of the family hearth. It's boring.
She should perceive you multifaceted, in different ways.
for instance, you can take on several roles at the same time:
- sometimes you are such a macho and bully;
- sometimes you are a kind and caring husband;
- but it happens that you are a cheeky guy;
- but sometimes also romantic.
What also helps to achieve this:
- Interesting other clothes.
- Various perfumes and perfumes.
Advantages of such a different perception:
- Adds the effect of surprise and unpredictability in a relationship.
- She always gets to know you new.
- She is drawn to you more.
- And there is no longer this gray banality.
