Love is a great and amazing feeling given to us by nature. For the sake of love, feats are performed and wars are unleashed, and lovers simply go crazy. But despite the fact that the movies try to convince us that the feeling of love still has an expiration date. Romance will never last a lifetime - experts convince us - we must admit that falling in love is just a state that will go away. If this is recognized, there will be fewer divorces and happier people. But why do feelings cool down? Is this really an inevitability?
Stages of development of love
Some people fall in love at first sight. It happens that a girl receives a marriage proposal on the first day of meeting. But in most cases, love is a long process that includes the following steps:
- Partner choice. According to psychologists, this happens at an unconscious level, instinctively. For example, you enter a room full of people. Undoubtedly, you will single out the person who attracted you sexually. It attracts you on a basic biological level because the body senses that your genes mixed with its genes will produce very healthy children.
- Romance and love. This is the same phase that all films, romantic novels, talk about. Note that all films end on the fact that "they lived happily ever after." In romantic melodramas, we will not see how the newlyweds equip their life, face the first difficulties. At this stage, we do not see reality - love is blind. We see people the way we want them to look. Chemists have found that the dizzying impulse is created by the hormones monoamines.
- The fall of romantic love. Everyone goes through this stage, even the most passionate couples. If you live in a culture that focuses almost exclusively on romantic love, this can be very unsettling. So when passion goes, many people think that love goes too. Also during this period, it becomes possible to look at your partner with a sober look and evaluate him, only seriously. At this point, many people realize right choice they did or not.
- Think of this time as a chance to see your partner for who they really are and decide if you made the right choice.
- Real true love. If at the moment when passion faded, you decide that you made the right choice and your partner is the one you need, then you are on the path to true love. This happens gradually and slowly, one to two years after the previous stage. Over the years, your feelings will continue to grow. At this time, the human body works chemical substances, nonapeptides that contribute to the creation of a deep spiritual connection between partners.
Where does love go
As you can see, cooled feelings are an inevitability that comes in any relationship. Some couples successfully cope with this, constantly warming up feelings. For other couples, this period is critical. Why is this happening? There are many reasons why the feelings of lovers cool down:
- The couple is faced with a reality that is far from a romantic setting. Now there is an opportunity to see your loved one with unbrushed teeth in holey socks. Also, it turns out that he snores at night, and still does not clean the table after the meal. Worse, when a person is known from the negative sides, it may turn out that he is an alcoholic, a drug addict or a rapist.
- It happens that people, having fully recognized a friend, lose interest in relationships. They just get bored. Therefore, monotony should not be allowed in relationships.
- Feelings will fade if the relationship is like a powder keg that is about to explode. Constant scandals, showdowns, jealousy - a person simply gets tired of all this.
- Entering into a relationship, each person is looking for a close soul mate. Lack of emotional intimacy, support also moves away from each other.
- Sex is a great catalyst for relationships. When there are problems in intimate life, such relationships will soon exhaust themselves.
How to understand that love has passed
Very often, people are in the so-called dead relationship, while losing the chance to build a happy personal life. There are many reasons for this: people are afraid of public condemnation, they are afraid of loneliness, they do not want to destroy the existing way of life, they tolerate each other for the sake of children.
Often, such dead-end relationships last for decades. You can find out that feelings have long passed by the following signs:
- you understand that you want a better relationship;
- you miss in this relationship;
- instead of communicating and spending time with a partner, you most often go about your own business;
- you feel comfortable when your partner is not around;
- you do not support each other's ambitions;
- your life partner annoys you in everything: how he walks, how he eats, how he laughs, how he folds towels;
- you criticize everything he does (even mentally);
- you often swear and scandal;
- there is deceit in the relationship;
- sex is very rare, there is no fire in the relationship;
- you do not want to start a family with this person;
- in parallel, you communicate with someone else or cheat on your partner.
Of course, there are many ways to revive a cooled relationship, but if you don’t want to do this, then this is the end of love.
How to warm up cold feelings
Unfortunately, modern youth does not seek to understand relationships, analyze their behavior and look for a solution. It is much easier to break up or divorce. It is not surprising that the number of divorces and incomplete families is growing every year. But sometimes you just need to be patient and solve the problem that has arisen, to survive the crisis period. So that feelings for a guy do not fade away, you must:
- be kinder, more positive;
- solve all problems by talking, not by scandals;
- trust each other completely;
- spend a lot of time with each other;
- remember happy moments more often;
- do not cheat, be honest in any situation;
- take care of your appearance
- maintain interest in each other;
- improve in sex.
As you can see, a list of simple but important things. Of course, if the relationship is completely destroyed, it will not be possible to restore them. But when they go through another crisis period, everything is in your hands.
- about women's mistakes, which, according to men, can extinguish a romantic feeling.
In this part, we will look at a number of already masculine mistakes that can extinguish the romantic feeling of a woman, and see if it is worth trying to correct them.
We, girls, are somewhat easier: we are interested in all aspects of relationships, most of us are interested in what can be done to strengthen relationships or at least prevent them from falling apart.
Therefore, we can go online, listen to our friends, learn from the mistakes of others, remember what not to do, and just try not to .
As for the men... It's easier for them in the sense that it doesn't even occur to them to bother in this way, but some of them will never know why the woman left or why the woman is very annoyed.
Some do not recognize, and some recognize in a very ugly form: in the form of screams, accusations, scandals. And which of them is better - is not yet clear.
There are oh-oh-oh-so many things that can extinguish in a woman not only the desire to have sex with a man, but also nullify the romantic feeling.
We talked about some of them in the article.
For example, he:
- won't lower the toilet seat
- does not wash his dignity before sex
- swims in fat and does not want to do anything about it
- throwing socks all over the place
- does not take off smelly socks when he comes home
- does not brush teeth
- eats like a pig
- often scratches in the groin
- doesn't wash his hands
- passing gases like it's normal
- pours the rim of the toilet
- acting ineptly during sex
- whines often
- goes to the toilet without closing the door
- always listening to mommy
- …and many many others.
To speak or not to speak?
These habits not only irritate, but also significantly reduce the partner's sexual attraction to a man. But do you know what the problem is? In that many men don't know about it .
This raises the question: how to convey to him how it affects you? And is it worth it at all?
I will answer the second question first: of course, it is worth it. Undoubtedly. Because if he continues in the same spirit, you will not get used to it sooner or later - no, you will accumulate negativity in yourself.
What this negativity will result in over time is another question: into a break in relations, into a terrible scandal, during which you will humiliate him, or into the fact that you simply begin to avoid intimacy with him, continuing to accumulate everything in yourself ... What would he poured out - it will have a very bad effect on the relationship. Any negativity is bad for relationships.
So, it is necessary that this negativity does not exist, right? Therefore, you need to try to correct what causes negativity in you. Why women have to do this, we discussed.
Accordingly, the question now arises: « How to make it work?»
Why scandals and accusations do not work, we also discussed in the last article. Scandals and accusations only get on your nerves, cause him anger and irritation, which he will sooner or later direct at you - after all, you didn’t take care of his feelings, why should he?
Shyness is also not an option. For example, a man devotes very little time to foreplay, and the girl does not have time to prepare, so it is painful and unpleasant for her to have sex, but she is embarrassed to say that foreplay need to spend more time.
Someone endures like this all his life, embarrassed. But who benefits from this? The man lives as he lived, does not suspect anything, and the girl has been suffering for many years. Or a man sees that a girl is starting to avoid intimacy, but not understanding what exactly is the matter, he begins to take offense, or his self-esteem drops ... All this also has a very bad effect on relationships.
And here we are back to the topic. honest and intelligent conversation . It is through him that it is worth expressing your wishes to a man (no complaints!).
There is one very simple rule for such a conversation: before expressing dissatisfaction with a man about something in his behavior, think about how you, making his mistake, would like to hear that you are doing something wrong.
Moreover, there are no universal formulas: the girl will have to figure out how to present information to a man herself, because only she knows the character and temperament of her partner.
It is clear that it is easier to remain silent or yell than to use your brains and figure out how to convey your dissatisfaction to a person so that he does not get offended and realizes that he really needs to be corrected.
But on the other hand, “to remain silent” and “to yell” lead to a deterioration in relations, and “to convey so that you are not offended and aware” leads to a strengthening of relations, because it eradicates the causes of your negative feelings. And then everyone chooses which way to go.
Let's look at an example.
Let's say it annoys you that a man is lying on the couch in smelly socks. We stand in his place: imagine that you are lying on the couch in smelly pantyhose. And - what is important! – don’t know that you stink (because you don’t smell yourself). And you lie like that, well, relaxed, everything is calm ...
What reaction of a man would not offend you greatly without lowering your self-esteem? (You don’t need to think that men don’t have feelings - they are offended in the same way, only more often inside)
- if he had kept silent, and only once, after some time, would you have found out that you walked all the time in smelly pantyhose, and he endured it, it was unpleasant for him, but he did not want to tell you?
- if he went into the room and directly said: “Take off your pantyhose, you stink!”
- if he went into the room and started yelling: “Oh, you rubbish, the whole room stinks, don’t you understand that I’m disgusted ?! Take it off now, you pig!!"
- if he gently and delicately let you know that tights should be removed? All people are different, the threshold of resentment is also different for everyone, so the words must be selected individually for each person.
For example, I wouldn’t be offended (and most importantly, I would remember that from now on I need to take off my tights) if he sympathetically said: “My girl, you must have been very tired today, you ran in…” I would ask: "Why?" or “Yeah, how did you understand?”, And he would have answered: “The legs are sweating a lot ...” Wow, I would have rushed to take off my tights and wash in one fell swoop: it would, of course, be embarrassing, but not offensive. Those. as a result, I would not have negative feelings towards my partner.
You can also combine words with actions. For example, open a window and ask: “Darling, do you mind if I air it here? It smells very bad, it even makes me feel nauseous, but I don’t understand from where ... ”However, the level of understanding of hints is different for everyone: one will run to take off his socks, the second won’t blow into his mustache. Therefore, you need to select words and actions based on the qualities of your man.
Yes, most likely, this conversation will need to be repeated several times, in different forms(men remember pretty badly), but as a result, if you did everything right, a man will overcome an unpleasant habit. Do you also get rid of bad habits not the first time?
Therefore, girls, if you do not want your love to be influenced by such negative factors as scandals or omissions, learn to think and try on the situation for yourself to get the conversation right.
Relationship between a man and a woman are not always cloudless, their the senses to each other may change. At one point, you suddenly realize: cool feelings. Horror! What to do if feelings have cooled down? Perhaps only in romantic films, books and fairy tales the end is always the same - a man and a woman live happily ever after. In reality, as we all know, the situation is slightly different. Even the happiest and most loving couples have situations where relationship decrease their level, the so-called crisis sets in. The senses partners cool down, and relationship change with each other. It is during this period that couples experience the greatest likelihood of divorce.
As you know, both black and white stripes happen in relationships. But if love and understanding are in the first place in your relationship, you will easily overcome all difficulties. In a relationship, you always need to change something, develop, move forward. You can not stand still, because then there is no development.
It happens that over time, both partners' feelings cool, and then, not wanting to fight, the partners decide on. In the case when one partner has cooled off, the second one tries to fix everything and return the old feelings.
First of all, don't panic! Do not immediately think that the partner has found himself someone else or no longer loves you. It happens that the fault of all problems is the usual overstrain and constant fatigue at work. A man, usually, is not used to sharing his problems with a woman, and a woman begins to invent problems for a man. You need to ask your partner directly about what happened. It happens that he just needs time to be alone, with his problems. For us women, this behavior is incomprehensible, because we always tell our beloved about problems! In order to start solving the problem in the family, you need to at least a little delve into the psychology of your partner.
No need to think that if a man does not talk to you, then this means that he no longer loves you! Try to do everything as usual. Talk to a man about your worries and problems, but do not put pressure on him. Be kind and gentle with him. Remind him every day how much he means to you. It is this behavior that is important for men, because if you support him during a difficult period, he will love and appreciate you even more.
Make the atmosphere in the apartment pleasant and cozy. To make a man want to come home every day. Prepare a delicious dinner, offer to watch the match of his favorite team together. Give your man a nice massage.
Family psychologists say that often problems in the family are women's fault. It is the women who begin to panic and "inflate the molehill out of a fly." Dear women, do not blame a man for losing interest in you. Perhaps you yourself were responsible for this? Long-term relationships lead to the fact that a woman forgets that a man loves with his eyes. It is necessary to always be beautiful and seductive for a man. Maybe you really lost your shape, and you should take care of yourself?
It often happens when the feelings of lovers cooled over time and ceased to play an important role in life. What if the man has cooled down? What to do? After all, in certain moment even for couples living in peace, harmony and understanding, there comes a period when it becomes boring.
What to do if feelings have cooled?
Firstly, there is no need to make scandals, be offended by each other, ignore each other in any situation, avoid conversations or go to the side in search of thrills.
On the contrary, it is necessary to try to renew relations, to warm up those feelings that have cooled down, to unwind, to change the situation that has been flashing before my eyes for so many years.
If a woman asks the question “What if feelings have cooled?”, It means that she is not indifferent to her beloved and she is trying to fix it.
6 tips for those whose feelings have cooled
In order to return the cooled feelings you need:
Try to remember what exactly heated up the situation between you, remember everything conflict situations. What did it all lead to and where did it all begin? Understand the causes of your quarrels and conflicts.
After all, scandals, quarrels, conflicts, negative emotions- this is the first thing that is the cause of chilled feelings in life away. After all, negative communication has two continuations - either a quarrel causes passion, or a quarrel moves away from each other;
Try to understand yourself and your loved one. Evaluate yourself, your character, find your favorite shortcomings and good character traits. Find the same in your spouse.
If it seems to you that a man has cooled off, then try to understand what exactly you like in your spouse and what you cannot stand in his actions and character. Ask him to do the same. After analyzing yourself and your spouse, think about what you can change from the list received;
Remember all the good times with your spouse. Those moments when it was just good for you and him to be together, and nothing more. Good memories will bring you back to your spouse and help bring back some feelings;
Call your loved one for a direct and frank conversation. It should take place in an atmosphere of complete calm and peacefulness. Do not express a negative attitude towards the actions of your soulmate, do not make claims and reproaches. It is possible that the distance in your relationship has arisen for reasons related to neither your loved one nor you. It is possible that your loved one has problems at work or his relatives are pestering him. The created psycho-emotional mood most likely affects your relationship.
Get closer. Be alone, go out of town, go hiking together in nature or in another peaceful place. Forget everything for a while everyday problems and get rid of everything that annoys you. Enjoy chatting with each other.
Also change something in yourself. Be more often just nearby, sit together, watch a movie, go out into nature, change everyday everyday life for unrestrained weekends. If feelings have cooled, try to diversify your life.
How to understand that a man is cooling
When you start to feel that your loved one has become less reverent and affectionate towards you, without that delight and that spark in the eyes that were before, it is very frustrating and frightening. What happened? Maybe you just think so? How do you know that he has cooled off towards you, and not just tired, or has your relationship entered a calm phase?
Compliments. You no longer listen to hundreds of them a day. You practically beg for them from your lover. He has no time to say them, he has more important things to do. And you are always beautiful, he told you, you can no longer approach with such questions;
He doesn't even notice the change in your appearance. Doesn't react if he doesn't like it. "Did you change your hairstyle? I didn't even notice. Yes, it’s okay, it’ll do ”- the standard answer of an ordinary man. By such words, you can find out that the man has cooled off. Remember how he used to behave when you changed something in yourself;
Calls you less and less. This includes meetings. They are very rare and fleeting. After all, he's all about business. You no longer attract him with your wit. You become a burden to him;
You annoy him. He no longer sees the beauty that he fell in love with, and it infuriates him. On this basis, many empty quarrels arise. Each your word he does not like. He begins to think that you are doing all this on purpose. Your relationship is in jeopardy, it looks like you will soon have to find out that the guy has lost interest in you;
Your business. The delimitation of all previously common affairs begins. He tells you that his business does not concern you. He does not tell (or very sparingly) what is happening with him at work or with his parents. Another nasty way to find out that a guy has cooled off;
Not “We”, but “I” and “You”, he says more and more often. There is no longer a "we". He tries to emphasize this with all his gestures and words. Don't get mad at him for it, he can do it subconsciously. Just not understanding what's going on.
Be careful!
Everyone has difficult moments in love and life. If several of the above signs coincided with your reality, you should not chop off your relationship from the shoulder. Analyze. How often do these items appear in your life? Under what circumstances? Is it constant or intermittent? How long are these intervals?
If you are no longer thinking how to find out that the guy has cooled off, but you are 100% sure of this, do not wait until he tells you everything himself - men do not like to talk about relationships and often do not know how to do it. Start a conversation yourself and try to find out that with him, perhaps the reason is not in you, but in his problems, and now he is not up to feelings. Or maybe his feelings really go away ...
inhale new life into your relationship. Surprise him with yourself. Let him fall in love again and again. You should be everything to him: the sun, the moon, the stars and oxygen. He must understand that he cannot breathe without you. You are a drug that should always be around and with a new dose.
Signs of a cold man
“People meet, people fall in love, get married”, famous words from a good song. It's wonderful when two people love each other. But love doesn't always last forever. It happens that in the life of every girl there comes a period when problems begin in love affairs.
When such a moment comes in a relationship, the girl willy-nilly wonders if her young man has lost interest in her and what she should do next to interest him again.
How do you know that a man has lost interest in you? And what to do if a man has cooled down? In search of an answer to this question, girls most often seek advice from their friends, but there are several basic indicators by which you can determine whether your partner has cooled down or not.
It is worth taking a closer look at how his behavior, look, words, facial expressions have changed. To what and how does he react?
You need to appreciate how far he has moved away from you. What remains the same, how he talks to you, what is wrong in the intonation and where at the moment of the conversation his eyes are most often directed.
To find out that a man has cooled off towards you, you need to analyze the main reasons for his unusual behavior. Try to figure out what was the reason that caused such unusual behavior of your partner. Maybe you're just tired of each other, or your behavior somehow repels him, forcing him to behave that way.
Analyze your behavior, try to determine exactly how your behavior has changed, try to identify those moments in which you yourself remove your partner, or try to control him very much. Change your line of behavior, look at things easier. Try to understand him, listen. You need to talk to him honestly, what happened to you, and what is in his soul.
If your young man makes contact, it means that he also noticed the changes and wants to return everything back. If he is simply surprised and does not want to solve the problem in any way, this means that your relationship has become obsolete, it's time to put an end to it, the man has cooled off towards you. In the case when the partner tries to solve the problem by mutual efforts, do not forget that the relationship is a pair game in which the team consists of two people.
If you follow these tips, you can always find the answer to the question of how to find out that he has cooled off for you ?. It has always been, is and will be.
Over time, family or love relationship tend to "be covered with a slight touch of everyday life." You no longer kiss each other, looking through the good old melodrama, you will not wait for flowers from him for no reason, and there is no question of surprises at all.
Bouquets of flowers disappear, kisses while watching your favorite melodrama, surprises. How to update relationships with simple means? The answer is very elementary.
The second half deserves your constant attention. Most couples just get bogged down in their daily routine, forgetting over time to even ask about how her or his day went, what's new at work (at training, at school, etc.)
But romantic relationships are based on mutual interest. Even if you are unbearably exhausted by the working day, and your only goal is to quickly fall into bed, do not deprive your half of your attention - even half an hour will be enough for this.
A gentle touch, a romantic kiss will give you two unforgettable moments of joy and satisfaction and help renew relationships;
Do not forget about the interests of your beloved (lover), trying to diversify life with romantic deeds. Let's say you have planned a trip to the theater or watching a new comedy, and he has already bought a ticket for the final match of the season - make concessions to him.
Reschedule your visit to a play or movie screening to another day. Just tell him about your plans and together reschedule the cultural trip to another date convenient for the two of you;
Take care of your significant other. Banal care for each other can make your relationship very romantic. A cup of aromatic coffee in bed, prepared before waking up, a bath with aromatic - and tenderness in a relationship can be guaranteed to you.
From focus to action
Let's move on to a more specific plan to "renew the relationship." Organize a romantic dinner, for no reason, just like that. Such actions are very romantic. Get back from work a little earlier, cook his favorite meals, decorate the apartment. Be sure to buy candles, fill glasses with sparkling wine. This turn of events will greatly surprise your lover;
We write love notes as in childhood. Leave each other romantic messages on the refrigerator, bathroom mirror, or nightstand. Just draw a heart or write a declaration of love. Try to correspond, correspond, indicating each time what you love each other for.
How to behave to a woman if a man has lost interest in her
The lack of new impressions and sensations turns a happy life together into a daily routine. How to avoid this phenomenon and how to renew the relationship? The correct answer to this question, and mainly the ability to answer it correctly, can save any marriage from an inevitable split.
To begin with, remember the times when you just met - agree, then there were more smiles, jokes and other pleasant and interesting little things. In other words, then, in order to please your partner, you tried to be boring, original. In order for your relationship to last happily ever after, nothing prevents you from repeating your past experience and returning to the beginning again;
Change the familiar and disgusting home environment - to renew the relationship, add a twist to the relationship. Such changes can be of different scale. You can simply rearrange the furniture in the apartment, start repairs, buy new clothes, or move completely - the surrounding life also has great importance;
Try changing your image. For example, start with a hairstyle - visit the salon and get a model haircut. You can change the color of your hair, make a make-up. Come up with an individual style of clothing for yourself. If sports or classics were your everything until today, try on a romantic look. Take the risk of wearing what you always dreamed of, but never dared to.
Joint goals, leisure and a bit of psychology
What to do if a man has cooled down? Nothing brings people together like a common cause. Draw yourself a plan or set a long-term goal, the implementation of which will require joint efforts. You can, for example, learn to play tennis and visit the court together from now on. Another option is to start saving money with your husband to buy a new house, car, etc.;
Analyze the current state of affairs in your relationship, your behavior, actions. The same scenario for every day, the same holidays, shopping trips and other "everyday life" drags you into a gray routine. To renew your relationship, add something long forgotten to your daily routine.
For example, go to a restaurant with your significant other, arrange a candlelit dinner in your apartment, dance somewhere, as in your youth. Take some creative approaches: take a cooking class together, take part in a bowling tournament, or go to couples fitness. Cheer for your local (or favorite) football team - this will awaken your former passion;
In the end - just talk heart to heart with him, sometimes even this is quite enough. Share your thoughts, doubts, fears, discuss the situation together and decide on further actions.
In any married couple, sooner or later, a moment may come when both feel that something is wrong and feelings are no longer on that wave. And it is very good when one of the spouses thinks about it and tries to change the situation for the better by all means.
feelings between husband and wife. What to do ?
- At the very beginning of a relationship between lovers, a river of bliss and understanding flows. They spend a lot of time together, chirp incessantly and it seems to them that the whole world contributes to their happiness. But why, then, even very happy couples, after marriage, the birth of a child, or just ordinary problems in everyday life, have a feeling of cooling and how to defeat it in the struggle for love
- The first thing to do is, of course, talk to your partner and tell everything about your experiences and feelings. If he values relationships, he will meet you halfway and then all attempts will have a greater chance of success.
If, after the conversation, the spouse is not very ready for compromises and wants to be alone or even live separately, you should not hold him back - For many couples, spending some time alone helps them understand themselves and their feelings and desires. The main thing is not to start parting and immediately agree on the timing. For example, it is worth living separately for 2-3 weeks and try to meet again and discuss everything
The wife's feelings for husband
It often happens that a man, accustomed to the care and constancy of his wife, ceases to pay due attention to her, say gentle words of gratitude, or simply does not appreciate her feelings and impulses as before.
In this case, the woman gradually fades bright feelings of love and they are replaced by a feeling dissatisfaction, pain , fear , misunderstanding and loneliness . Even attempts to return love with former vivid memories no longer give a positive effect, and she begins to think about divorce.
What to do if feelings for her husband have cooled down?
If, nevertheless, a man noticed the cooling and detachment of his wife, but still really wants to restore the old relationship, then very decisive measures should be taken:
- Begin every day to notice the best qualities in her and praise her for them. At the same time, she should not see flattery, but sincere admiration in your eyes.
- Never humiliate or persuade her if she is not ready to talk. Give her time to be alone. And only then carefully and gently again try to enter her life. The pressure in this case will only push her away, and your persuasion will make her respect you less. Keeping your distance now more than ever
- No matter how a woman behaves, never leave her in difficult situations. If you need help, be the first to know about it and try to solve her problems as soon as possible. This will inspire her to think about your courageous deeds. After all, not many men in our time are ready to confirm words with deeds.
- When her feelings warm up a little and she is ready for conversations and meetings, start pleasing her with small and non-binding gifts. Just small ones. Because she is not ready to accept generous gifts in the form of expensive jewelry or clothes now due to overwhelmed fears that she will have to reciprocate
- When your second honeymoon begins, draw conclusions and never lose your treasure again. Travel more, spend time together for only time and communication will give more understanding and strengthen your bonds.
The man's feelings have cooled. How to be?
Everything happens and quite the opposite - a man loses the thread of understanding with a woman, she becomes not so attractive in his eyes and he understands that the previous feelings that he considered love might have been wrong.
In this case . If a woman wants to maintain a relationship, she must take the initiative in her own hands and apply the maximum of her charm and female wisdom to return her former vivid experiences:
- Be interesting to him. If he's used to you, surprise him with your new hobbies. Sign up for English courses, start going to the gym, take a training on revealing femininity. Your attitude will change, body and soul will radiate warmer energy, and the female essence will open up and your man will certainly feel it. Even on distance . After all, the connection with you through all channels and chakras will remain for a very long time.
- Completely revise your wardrobe, change the situation at home, if possible, make a small repair or rearrangement. Do everything intuitively. So you can change the direction of the energies in the house and perhaps this will have a positive effect on your relationship.
- Find your style in clothes , change your makeup to match your style , make a new hairstyle . By letting everything new into your life, you will renew not only yourself externally, but also internally. And this is simply necessary, because if such tough changes as parting with a man occur in your life, then the Universe indicates to you that it is time to move to a new level in life and become better.
Lost feelings for girl
Young people who are only on the threshold of a serious and adult life also have changes in their feelings for a previously beloved girl. This is a process of growing up and changing the requirements for life and a partner, perhaps even just the realization that you want a serious relationship and a family.
How to return the cooled feelings of a guy?
In this case, it is necessary to find out the reason for the cooling of the guy's feelings for you, and this requires a long and deep conversation.
If the reasons are clear and you are ready to fight for his feelings, then you can apply the following tips:
- If he is ripe for family relationships. But he sees in you a too windy person who likes to go to parties and sit in a cafe with her girlfriends, then you should completely reconsider your views and life habits. After all, if you understand that this is your person, then for the sake of him you can give up some non-essential habits
- If he has claims to your character, then it is already more difficult. All the same, it's worth considering whether you need a guy who is not ready to accept you for who you are. Not everyone has the willpower to change their innate qualities. And if you have a character trait. Which you can change with self-control, then you can try to save the relationship. But in most cases, as practice shows, this is not very successful. We must learn to accept ourselves and our partner in any form, and this is what will help us swim through any seed storm.
- And finally, all those reasons that are not very pleasing to your boyfriend, but which you are able to change in yourself. Of course you need work out and put away. If he asks will learn Cook, try and rejoice his. Such little things not must become wall on the way real feelings
At girls cooled down the senses To guy
If young woman more not rejoices your appearance and even gifts, costs very Seriously above this ponder. Means v heart her appeared doubt O opportunities your further relations. Causes to that may be absolutely different and sometimes even extraordinary.
How return cooled down the senses girls?
If v your life happened such trouble, all same there is chance all to correct. The main thing all discover in time and undertake worthy measures:
- Certainly same ask at her directly, what It happened and why all changed. When she will be able to you tell O their experiences, tell her, how you understand her. At the same time, you should not “sprinkle ashes on your head” and blame yourself for everything. say that you both built these relationships and both of you made possible mistakes, but are ready to try to return everything
- Not costs pounce on the her With accusations in all serious sins these relations. Mistakes were made both, but to you maybe how man have to take per all a responsibility, to save or even return the senses beloved
- Further to you needed plan clear action. But cope alone to you will not under force. Psychology girls very complicated and sometimes speaking about one, they have due to absolutely other. splurge on the visit To psychologist and share their problems With professional. There you exactly get rather recommendations proceeding from from character your girls and those hidden impulses, which she maybe and not aware
